Many issues and questions come down to working it out with your partner this included, as you can see. There are no rules that dictate if someone is called on thing they lose their individuality and if they are called another they do not. Does he treat you like an object or not? Are his ideas on how much you should be controlled make you uncomfortable or wet? It’s important to talk about anything that makes you uncomfortable and come to an understanding of each other. Likewise anything that you think you would enjoy should be discussed as well. And hopefully that understanding will lead to a situation that is both enjoyable and beneficial to you both.