~licks my lips looking over at the sexy pixie~ You're just hot, you know that? Wait..yes, you do know that. I mean look at that grin! Oh yeah, you know.

~runs over and grabs the delicious little pixie and licks her all up!~

Mmm, that was a delicious treat.

And Wolfie, you sweet thing! Not to ruin your rep or anything, but that was a wonderful statement to make! If you don't have any strong objections, I'd like to give you a little hug?

mari...wow. First off, thanks for taking the time I know it took to comment in such a deeply thoughtful way. (and dang, if that was cleverness eluding you, I don't think I could handle the brightness of it shining straight on me...but oh my, I'd like to see it and try ) Several things resonated with me and I just want to savor over them if that's ok?

Quote Originally Posted by mari
I can understand wanting the "domliness" all the time, of course- to me, it's a sexual turn-on, as well as satisfaction of an emotional need, deep in the core of me- as you put it yourself.... BUT... I am learning that being a slave is about: Am i pleasing Master? in anything and everything I do...
~nods and nods and nods in agreement~ Yep, that right there! It is about taking the focus off yourself and applying that focus to HIM. In doing that, my needs are dealt with just fine and dandy, I'm coming to realize. And I am SO going to steal what jeanne said in her thread (hope that's okay, jeanne!!)

Quote Originally Posted by his_j
I think it's just getting to the point that there's a momentum here now and I need to just relax and let him take more of the lead - quit worrying about MY needs and seriously start thinking about and acting on HIS.
Oh yes, yes, yes to that too! You know, sometimes I just sit back in my chair here and get a little awed by the insight offered up here. Amazing! And thank you both. ~hugs~

mari, you also said,
So... sorry for the rambling!!!! But i saw you still wanted some input on post # 13... oh i forgot to answer that-
i wanted to say
COMMUNICATION
can't stress that enough
i mean.. i'm sure you've learned that skill already having been married 20 yrs! congratulations by the way, that's a big feat, especially in this day and age!
Thank you also for this advice. Talking it all through is a major component in the success in all this. But you know what? Until I finally had the sense about me to take all this to my Devil, I didn't do such a hot job at the whole communication thingee. All the assumptions I made, all the opinions I had without seeking his side of it all...~sighs~ But that's in the past. And now, we communicate. It's not all the way perfect, because we are just mere mortals (I know, I know, hard to believe ), but it's better than it ever was. And we are definitely much more settled with each other now. There is a nice flow going. I am enjoying the ride, so to speak.

And mari, I absolutely love the new title-- "The Glass Flogger: Sleeping Subbie Meets Master Charming"-- LOVE it! Can I steal that, too?? Pretty please??

Again, I just really love this place. ~hugs everybody 'cause I'm feelin' it~