Quote Originally Posted by Eraser
I never said what you should or shouldn't enjoy doing. But calling ones self a slave or being a slave isn't about an activity. A slave is a deep level of submission and sacrifice and giving up of control. calling a bottom a slave or a slave a bottom is like calling a Geo metro a sports car.
Yeah, I know you didn't, Eraser. Unfortunately, you and I posted at roughly the same time, which is why I went back and added the "no offense". I was referring to the blowhards that one often meets at the munches, etc. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

However, I'm glad you responded, because I've been wanting your opinion on something since reading your "Vegan" thread. I refer to myself as "Master" and my mate as "slave" because that's what we are to one another. It has very little to do with outside criteria. One day she asked to be my slave, I made sure she was serious and aware of the implications, then accepted her request. It's been a constant learning experience for the both of us since.

The only real interest I have in studying BDSM (or anything else, for that matter) is to learn for my own benefit and that of my slave's. That said, do you think it's realistic for me to seek a mentor from within my local BDSM community?

I'd appreciate hearing from other experienced players, as well.

Cheers!