As a guy who is dominant, it is a constant wonder to me that guys that think of themselves as "submissives" tend to want the girls they meet to be dominant. Perhaps it's wishful thinking that they will eventually run into the one-in-four that actually is.
Touche'!
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P.S. There's a thread for new members to introduce themselves in General Talk. Perhaps you'd like to have a look at it and post one of your own?
Let me get a "feel" for this first, sorry, a bit shy--maybe I'm not so secure in my gender either?