The way his planning sounds, it seems to me he is already planning for the relationship to end. "Keeping your options open" is a license for him to see whoever he pleases, while he keeps you on the shelf in case it doesn't work out. The ex moving in is a HUGE red flag, if you want a personal relationship.

A solid relationship is established when people plan for the future, not when people plan for failure.

And yes, on the thread topic, Doms certainly can be wrong. That's why caring people still need safe words! You need to sit down with him and have a long, heart to heart talk. Tell him it's person-to-person, not sub to dom, and open up your heart.

That may be the only way to get him to open up his. But prepare yourself; you may not like the answer you get.

This does not sound like an easy situation. Sending good thoughts to you to give you strength and some inner peace.

chksng