Thank you for the excellent advice, it is really helping me set things straight in my mind, I am just trying to do what is best to figure out what is best for me. Lately I've been avoiding him to see what best for me into dealing with all of this, he has been iming me wondering why I didn't even say hello to him since we usually talk to each other every day. I just don't know what to tell him, a friend of mine told me to avoid him til he says all he is feeling to me and if he doesn't just not to talk to him again. That is extremely hard for me to do...

This is the first time I heard of him giving me problems, he has always been honest with me. I understand if he wants to keep options open, but it feels like its more than that and it confuses me. The thing is I don't want a poly relationship, he knows that I am a one man girl, in the past he asked me if I'd consider scening with a third...I told him I wouldn't mind, but I wouldn't want a poly relationship. The thing was when he told me that this girl was going to live with him, he kept saying that he hopes we can stay as we are...and it felt like he was referring that he had something to hide...it felt like he knew something was going on between him and her but I didn't really say anything except that I don't want to lose him...and he said he didn't want anything to change between us. He has also been the first one to train me, I don't know if that makes anything different.