Quote Originally Posted by Finding_Fantasy
My mother would die of a heart attack if she ever knew. I was checking my email the other day at their place and she looked over my shoulder. And in my inbox were several messages indicating posts for this site as well as from email groups to which I belong. I explained that they were all junk mail.
i've been in the same situation and i didn't like having to lie to her but i realized that the conversation/arguement that might ensue would be much worse than just denying it to be of any value.

i believe many mothers (especially mine!) would react the same way because they can't comprehend that her child would want to give up the independence she fought so hard to earn for them and that there exists a happy and healthy side of BDSM...

Oh well, maybe one day no one will fear what they don't know and independence will be something no one fights for because it will have been won for everyone...but then again, i could just be overly optimistic...