A Dom's Emotions

[embre]

Looking at a lot of BDSM videos and pics, it always seems to me that the Dom is not very into it emotionally. Maybe it's because they're working in front of a camera, but they always seem very cold and distant to me, and I was wondering whether that in itself is a turn-on to a sub.

i've also seen this a lot in public scenes. So much so that Master and i started using the term "Stand and flog" to describe people like that. i'm not sure if it's some myth that Doms are to be that way that causes this kind of behavior or not.
Personally i love when Master shows emotion. i can't get enough of it during a session, the love, the lust and self control not to mention the stern sadistic emotions as well. All sides of who He is tends to come out during a scene and i crave every one of them.
The only time i've seen Him hold back and be distant is during a punishment. The distance, is a form of punishment in itself but also a way for Him to keep His loving and caring side from getting the task done.

[Dr Mabeuse]

One of the reasons I asked about this is because I always thought that a big part of a sub’s pleasure in putting up with what she does comes from the knowledge of how her sacrifice and pain arouses her master.

Certainly there are painsluts who just get off on the physical sensation of being bound and whipped or tortured, just like there are people who cut themselves with razor blades because they like the sensation and the sight of their own blood. I consider that masochism of the purest sort, where physical pain is the main goal. But for other subs—at least the ones I’ve played with—I always assumed that seeing the master get aroused is a major turn-on. Knowing that her suffering is fuel for his fire is what makes it all worthwhile. It’s what she gets in return for her sacrifice.

I can see where coldness and emotional distance in a Dom could also be a turn-on. I know that there are plenty of subs who like to feel that they’re no more than a sex-toy, a sexual object to be used for another’s pleasure, to be whipped and tortured for no better reason than that their Dom simply feels like doing it to them. But rage and lust are closely linked in a lot of men--the urge to dominate and possess—and I think that being the subject of that wild, almost uncontrolled passion is a turn on for a lot of women.

Anyhow, that’s a theory I’m working on.

---dr.M.