my journey

[Echoes]

~hugs~

I still have 5 more days and will be back around mid-August, just not settled in for a bit.

~hugs hugs hugs~ !!!

[tessa]

ECHOES!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh I've missed you!!!! ~hugs and hugs and hugs~

I'll be thinking of you and looking forward to August!

~hugs~

[tessa]

Ok, I just had a "wow" moment. It had nothing to do with a sexual activity or the threat of a good, hard paddling. Now don't stop reading just 'cause I said that.

My wonderful friend, Ms. Red, said something to me that made me stop and think. It made me think about everyone I read about here that lives this out on a day to day basis, who try to make this D/s dynamic work in the relationship with their significant other and who sometimes get frustrated with it. I think what she had to say is rather brilliant, so I'm gonna share with all you who read this. I will add that I was venting a bit to her- about the difficulties when two people are so different and when life gets in the way and when there's not enough time and blah, blah, blah. She listened to me and gave me the following:

I'm sure you've gathered that not very many people are actually able to accomplish it (living a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle). The reasons vary from living too far away from each other to having children around all the time. Many things make it impractical. There are the fantasies we live with, and then there's cold hard reality.

See? Like I said, brilliant. She sent me focus and perspective. And she reminded me that it is all worth it. I hope anyone else reading this gets the same thing from it.

Love you, girlie! ~big squishy boobie hug, albeit with tears~

tessa