I would view such an article with skepticism. I'm sorry but the more I hear sexual generalisations, the bigger the pinch of salt I add to them gets. Men aren't all the same. Neither are women. Saying things like 'men do....' but 'women think....' just seems daft as human behavioural variation is so wide and has so much overlap between the sexes, it's a massive and, to my mind, unsound assumption to lump all the members of one sex into one behavioural category. Learned behavioural patterns and human experience are probably ( and I'm speculating here but what the hell, I'm sure whoever writes this kind of gender theory dosen't have any more robust measures to base theory on ) much more important in determining if and how an individual will lie to their partner, if they do at all. I would venture that the best relationships have an equal share of the true power. Submissives wouldn't be submissives if they weren't getting something they wanted out of the equation ( I don't include people who pose as submissives but have a different agenda under the label 'submissive' ) and if one party is dissatisfied with a relationship, then it is unlikely to last.

The counter question that I would ask is, do you, or anyone else, think that reading gender specific magazines or 'scientific' papers that pupport gender differences actually modifies peoples behaviour? For example women may read something from an 'expert' in a column giving advice along the lines of ' well women usually react to this situation by....'? Or maybe reading that paper you thought 'actually, yes I do that sometimes' and by becoming more conscious of a behaviour you are more likely to enact it? Now I'm just rambling on I know but, what the fuck, I wonder how much of this stuff is just made up and we latch onto it.

If you are being really manipulated in a relationship, that to me is a sign of dishonesty and a lack of real trust and respect.

I'm right with Nightstriker on this one, even as a dominant you are staying within accepted boundaries set by the submissive and when she says 'no' you stop, so she has the ultimate power of veto. I'm just playing at having the power for our mutual pleasure, and what a fantastic game it is