Why Do Men Lie?

[Alex Bragi]

Well, I haven’t read the article ProjectEuropa is referring to, but it sounds a little tongue in cheek to me, too. That’s not say it isn’t an interesting topic for discussion. Perhaps, just not one to be taken too seriously, I think.

So, why do men lie to men?

I believe, the most common, and frequently told, lie by men to other men is about how much sex their getting and, or, how good it is. Interestingly enough, it’s thought to be one of the primary causes of physiological impotence. It’s to do with their fragile egos – “I have great sex at least ten times a week.” Comments like this are bound to make some poor bugger feel inadequate with his performance, and that can cause a man to literally drop. But I guess that’s a whole new topic.

Now, why do men lie to women?

Men lie to women, mostly, to get sex. ‘”I swear you’re the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met.” The average red-blooded male, who has reached puberty, will usually do, or say, just about anything to get laid. When a man says sex with his ex-girlfriend was lousy, he is lying to make you feel good. When he tells you sex with his ex was fantastic, he is lying again to get more you to try something new. It’s important to remember sex for men is one of life's constants -- it's always pretty good.


Of course not all men’s little lies are so desperate. Men will lie to make life easier -- “No, of course I wasn’t looking at the woman’s gorgeous big breasts.” Then, they lie to shift the blame-- “It wasn’t my fault she flashed them in my face” They lie to make themselves feel bigger, better, and more important-- “I used to date woman with breasts bigger than hers!” And they lie just to keep the peace -- “No, darling, your breasts are much nicer than hers.”

Basically, I think how much a man will exaggerate and overestimate himself depends very much on how much he wants impress, or pacify, the woman he’s lying to. So, in a twisted kind of way, having a man like to you, really isn’t really such a bad thing is it?

In a BDSM situation of consensual sex, how dominant is a male dom and how submissive is a female submissive and is this an extreme reflection of the wider relationship between men and women?

And on a more serious note, yes, I would agree with that statement. I think perhaps for primitive women (and perhaps many species of mammals) a female's ‘submissiveness’ is often her ‘protection’.

Studies done, with our closest relatives, show that female apes and monkeys frequently ‘offered’ themselves to dominant males in their troop in order to pacify them. An aggressive, but physically smaller and weaker female, soon finds herself in trouble if she confronts a bigger and stronger male.

Of course, we have evolved. We are civilized. But our insticts and primary emotions remain unchanged.