How did you find out about the BDSM lifestyle?
Actually, it was more like, I found out what it was called. i had always experimented with mild pain and bondage. It was actually when I was about 8 years old. I don't remember the circumstances, but I found a book entitled "Sweet Gwendoline" and oh boy! It was full of pictures, and wonderful female forms and what's this? Woman tied up and whipped/tortured! It was relatively mild (and so am I to this day) but I thought it was awesome. Best thing was that later, after my father died when I was approx. 24, my mom gave me that very copy. I will always keep it.

What was its appeal to you?
I really am not sure. I guess the sex and a little bit the power. But mostly the shape of the female body. The helplessness that I have the power to cause, but just like the pain I cause, it is so very pleasing to make it go away and sort of "rescue" her.

What misconceptions did you have of BDSM before you began that have been changed now?
I had no misconceptions except I didn't realize how bad some stuff actually hurt and how high a pain tolerance some people have. One time Aletta and I were in a club and watched a girl get spanked silly. It was strange to imagine how much that actually hurt and it really put it in perspective for me.

What do you hope to learn/teach/pass on to others about BDSM?
Huh? It is for my enjoyment and the enjoyment of my partner...I think that is all.

Do you consider yourself a "lifestyler" or just an occasional player?
Definitely an occasional player. I like to look at photos more than I would like to actually participate. I could be a pretty intense voyeur, but only an occasional participant.

What do you enjoy about being dominant/submissive?
Dominant...see question #2. That explains it all.

What do you like about your dominant/submissive(s), if you have one (them)?
So much, I can even begin. She is just amazing. Maybe more later if I like this forum, maybe not.