Thank you for the article TG. I've meaning to figure out a way to ask a question along those lines or maybe ask u to write an article just like this one!!

What you u said makes a lot of sense and helps someone like me, who hasn't had any BDSM relationships or experiences in r/t, understand the differences. It also helps when trying to shift back and forth. It was interesting and enlightening knowing that most people who do go online, don't usually do r/t and vice versa. I hope people who drift between both worlds and belong to a r/t community will convince others in those communities to join and help straighten out those misconceptions TG was talking about.

And eb's point is great too. If this wonderfull site wasn't here, I wldn't have anyone else to talk to and would have gone through the rest of my life feeling like some kind of freak who was incapable of "normal" (vanilla) relationships. I enjoy making friends and meeting people from all over the world with all kinds of experiences. I also like having a place I can run to to ask questions and got lots of answers from different view points, or just look around to familiarize myself.

But i have a question? When you ask someone about their experience, such as their level of experience, can o/l exp translate the same way to r/t? Should they say, yes but only online or can they just lump it all together?