ooo. i have a question too while we are talking about ol and real life expereinces. I mix the two, but try to keep the *sensations* (mannerisms?) seperate. SO heres the question:

Friend of mine is a domme*. She has no, or at best, minimal real world experience in BDSM. Knows very little about how it works in reality (her comments sound like they come out of porn, at best, and tend to be misguided). Is there a way that i can nicely explain to her that the real world is differnt from online?

Question arises because she mentioned (around a minor no less O.o) that she though of blood play as "soft" and handcuffs as more "hardcore", which seems very skewed. Im afraid that she will get into trouble- or more likely, someone else into trouble- if she tries anything in the real world. Attepmts to ecplain various dangers have so far failed since bdsm "doesnt look hard".

*Or rather claims to be. She didnt know about/care about bdsm until she heard me and another friend (a sub) discussing it, just like she wasnt bi until i told her i though everyone was bi, so i dont know if shes just trying to act "cool" or is genuinely interested (and just ignorant).

(/rant. lol, sry)