Well, thank you TG, for the your insight to this dilema. I know for me, I started out o/l and have had few r/t experiences(2 be excact). So it all seems to make sense to me. I for one needed this sight to learn if this was something I wanted, and haven't yet proceeded to the next level of real time, because I wanted to make sure that BDSM was what I had been seeking. Yep it is, and I have learned a great deal, and of course without the dungeon, I certainly wouldn't of known anything about where to start. Now, of all the sites I have been to, to learn and get knowledge, this is absoulutly the best for me. I have no doubt I will be here for a long time. I will always be looking for the eternal questions for why, and of course how to be the best I can be. It is my hopes that when it comes time for r/t that I will take from what I have learned here, and be able to understand and apply this knowledge without using poor o/l judgement, you know getting it right and not having it all backwards.

Thanks again, great post!
T