Quote Originally Posted by Eclipsed
But i have a question? When you ask someone about their experience, such as their level of experience, can o/l exp translate the same way to r/t? Should they say, yes but only online or can they just lump it all together?
Internet experience is very different from real time experience; not just in BDSM, but in anything. I can look at diagrams of rockets all day, everyday, for years, but when it comes time for me to build a thrust control manifold, I'm probably going to be pretty clueless about it.

By the same token, I can read all about flogging a girl's ass and how hard to swing and where to hit for the 'best' effect, but until I have a specific flogger in my hand and I am using it on a specific girl, I don't know how that flogger is going to feel, I don't know how its dynamics are going to affect each stroke I make with it, and I don't know how hard to hit that specific girl to make her say 'oh' instead of 'ow.'

I read something yesterday on another site, and it said something like: Internet BDSM is perfect. Your knots are always tied correctly, your ropes never slip, your slave never has to scratch her nose right after you've tied her hands behind her back. None of the little subtleties that predominate over real life situations are expressed in internet BDSM.