i've been reading these responses and i'm exactly like that..i need to be in control of my life..the every day tasks involved, the way i try and fail to write burns the hell out of me...i do have dominant tendencies..i have a lack of patience...and then i tend to talk back..and not sure that's a sub-like quality...however as you stated, i long to give control of every part of my being to someone who will take control of me and do it with sternness yet compassion...i so long for someone to take control of every part of me, but my brain...i will never be a doormat..and someone once told me that being a sub means you have limits..but being a slave means becoming a doormat..and i disagree with that...any thoughts on that?