Yeah, people sometimes get aroused by the strangest things. People, being the important word here. I think if I were in your situation I would set as a guide for myself that as long as nobody gets hurt, what I do inside my own mind or in consensual play is, practically, not doing any harm. People may think it’s strange or even too extreme but as far as I’m concerned, opinions vary quite too widely to be really used as a guide.Thanks...that meant a lot to me. Reassurance is always good.Hi, Ayla. We havn't met, but welcome back.
I think we probably all go through times when we think there must be something 'wrong' with us, because of what we want and what turns us on. I still have fantasies that I shy away from, can't actually admit to myself; I see what's about to happen, and just switch it off. But I reckon I'm just human... none of us can control our brains or the urges that they give us. We can, though, control what we do with or about those urges, so as long as we aren't putting those 'bad' fantasies into action, we are still fine people.
Be glad to be you.
Couldn't agree with you more. And actually, your situation was very similar to mine. My mother has labeled BDSM as "twisted" and "disgusting" before...and it stung - especially coming from someone who I'd always respected.I've had a few; when my mother found my DVD 'The Story of O', she started calling my Master & I 'sick' & 'perverted' and I did turn to my Master for comfort, I asked Him if we were. His answer was no, I knew that already, I just needed it confirming over those nasty, spiteful words from someone in my family who clearly doesn't understand the BDSM world.
I guess we've just got to try and ignore all those who believe BDSM is sick, wrong, perverted and abusive - because we're the ones that really understand it, and they are just blindly commenting.