Hello, Ayla. Welcome back! Knowing how special this community is, it's no surprise you found your way here again. I don't know you, but I do hope that changes and soon.

Your question made me think. I do not consider who I am sexually, nor how that affects me on a day to day basis, to be "wrong" or "perverse". There might have been a time when it all confused the hell out of me, but not any longer. And I certainly don't choose to listen to others who are of the mind that my kinks are, for whatever reason, out of the norm. Sure, I get a couple funny looks now and again from my one vanilla friend who has some idea about me. But when I come back with, "Ewww!! You and your husband had sex when you went camping?? Right there in your sleeping bag on the ground?! With the bugs and the dirt and all?!?! You freakin' pervert!", she is reminded, once again, that we all enjoy ourselves in our own special way.

While I don't know how my mother feels about my sex life (and that is probably for the best- for us both), even her opinion wouldn't cause a change. I am who I am. Other's opinions just aren't going to matter so much to me, not about this.

I hope your life has calmed down and you can return to the business of pursuing happiness. Again, welcome back!

tessa