Quote Originally Posted by tha
Hi
My questions is could there be a connetion between his psychological state and bdsm? And have a negative effect on him and can it be worsened by continueing this woyage?
There is obviously a connection between one's psychological make up and BDSM, just like there is a connection between one's psychological make up and being strictly vanilla. However, I think you are asking is there a connection between his childhood abuse and BDSM and his depression.

I enjoy BDSM and I've suffered depression. In fact I have suffered two breakdowns in the past. One that took over a year out of my life and one that was only minor compared but that is because I knew what was happening to me.

I can CATEGORICALLY say I had nothing but a happy and well rounded childhood.

I can also CATEGORICALLY say my depression and breakdowns most certainly had nothing to do with BDSM.

However I came to BDSM late and as to whether my depression and first breakdown altered me psychologically to be more in tune with BDSM I can't say and it is something I have wondered about myself. That being said I have found no psychological harm, no altered behaviour patterns and nothing but enjoyment in being involved with BDSM.

I heard a psychologist on the radio say BDSM relationships are broken relationships, suggesting in some sense the people involved are damaged but I have seen absolutely no evidence for that opinion.

Of course I have no way of knowing but I would imagine that there are pressures inpinging on your partner such as his exams and other outside pressures and BDSM is some sort of release.

I'm no expert so this is just my humble opinion and nothing more.