Well said, especially you, Widget.

Digressing slightly here, I think maybe there’s also often confusion between sexual submissiveness and sexual martyrdom. I knew this woman once, and I swear she actually seemed to crave to be abused by men. I’m not talking about the every so sweet power exchange of bdsm play either, well, not as I understand it to be anyway, but extreme and unchecked physical and mental abuse that she seemed to need to validate her own lack of self worth—very sad really that there were men willing to accommodate her.

I agree, a healthy sexual relationship should always be based on trust and respect.