Hi
when i read this i thought about how i was introduced to bdsm. Firstly i was shocked when he told me, but after a lot of conversations (and crying) i calmed down. We talked an entire weekend , where we discussed our sex life, both the vanilla and bdsm. Before this, i was beginning to grow tired of our sex life, perhaps because it was getting boring. I didnt talk to him about this, as i was to embarresed to discuss such matters.

My advice is: talk talk talk, ask her what her reason is for not wanting to try out this. Ask her what she wants, perhaps she has some ideas. Give her time to accept it, I myself has taken 4-5 months just to begin reading about it and posting on this forum, so be patient with her. After we have talked this through we have become more happy for each other, and we a bigger sexual appetite for each other. best of luck to both of you.