about caning

[maratsade]

Quote from slavelucy

Thanks so much for that contribution, to read real experiences of caning is really helpful and is exactly the sort of thing i was looking for, especially from both sides of the scene, so thank you for taking the time to write it. i'm extremely dubious that i'd be able to take it without screaming the house down though, you must be made of MUCH stronger stuff than me! LOL

It's nice to be appreciated. Thanks. But I'm not made of strong stuff, and definitely not stronger stuff. I have a low pain threshold, and am sensitive. But you can work things out between you. My domme doesn't want to reduce me to a bloody mess, just to get reactions from me that tell her that she's getting to me, whether it's with pain or pleasure. And I'm the same. At the start either of you may find that the pain is getting too much, and becoming a total turn-off. So you stop. And learn. My pleasures are power, suspense, fear, tension, and a feeling of mercilessness - whether I'm top or bottom. You need to develop a lot of trust, and at the same time be able to catch the other out with a surprise.