about caning

[maratsade]

From slavelucy
I'm just not sure i have the fortitude to not scream or make an awful lot of noise and general fuss...not because i think it should stop, but because it damn well hurts!

If you feel like screaming, go for it! So long as you don't frighten the horses. But being disciplined, little by little, not to scream, holds a delicate pleasure too.

From slavelucy
We already have a lot of trust, i couldn't even contemplate doing DS (especially involving a moderate amount of S&M) with anyone i didn't trust

Fair enough. But remember the wise words of Verdi: "To trust is good.....Not to trust is better." One consolation about being a switch - your partner has to think about retribution, and that gives trust a little bit of help.

From slavelucy
Get rid of power and add a smattering of unfairness and that pretty much would sum up my pleasures as well.

Hmm! Surely unfairness won't work unless there is power behind it. I don't necessarily mean manacles and leg irons.......but what about love, for instance.