We have been married for 13 years and it is only in the last 12 months that I have allowed my desire for subsmission to surface - too much Story of O at an impressionable age! - but I'm not sure that my husband is in to it as much as me. I can only do submissive when I have had too much to drink - i guess that the real test of my dedication is when I can do it sober. And we have nipple clamps (which I love!) and vibrators and apparantly a paddle (I can't wait). It is all very new to us and I wish that my husband could get some guidance as to what it takes to be dominant (as this is not his natural position - up until now) it is causing real conflict.