Yeah, tessa, what nk said. And others. I learn hugely from this, I take hope, inspiration, pleasure, encouragement from it. You are a special person - you are humble, and your humility is one of your attractive traits. But please, take the compliment: you are also teaching, and showing great thought and wisdom. You take the time to consider the path you and your husband are taking deeply and seriously - as well as having a WHOLE lot of fun! good on you both