I would love to keep lucy in suspense about what is to happen to her but if I have planned something I have GREAT difficulty in keeping quiet about it. On the other hand, as I hardly ever get round to doing what I plan I guess that's not a big problem.

I think that ideally it has to be best for most things to be a total surprise. This works for us because so much is a surprise to me too, in that I have only just thought of it before I do it.

On the other hand sometimes we will talk about what will happen and lucy will state that she will NOT do 'that' (whatever it may be) and then it becomes something which I just HAVE to pursue. She knows I will be doing it and that it will be a small power struggle, but that just adds more spice to the scene.

*thinks* .. this is going back to a previous thread where the question was who initiates a scene ... damn, so THAT'S why she says she won't do these things !!!!