I don't know if this is insightful or not. But your post reminded of this. I had a relationship with a sub that had a body image problem. She was beautiful, but she couldn't see it. One time when we were playing I told her to say, "I'm beautiful." As soon as she did, her breath got heavy and she got very wet. Since I seemed to hit a nerve, I made her say it again and again with more and more confidence and louder. She had an intense orgasm and we had a great night.

As we were cuddling afterward and chatting, I whispered to her, "say, 'i'm beautiful,' because you are." She looked at me, almost frightened and said "I can't."

And I am so sorry about your loss, but glad youa re back in the forums.

John