Well, I am going to jump in and let this be my first post because it is a great thread!

Men:

Criss Angel, hands down, can tie me up any day...I think he flies his MindFREAK flag very high in private.. :-)

And as a second choice (or maybe both at the same time) David Boreanaz..in full on Angel persona of course....

Women:

Mariska Hargitay and Milla Jovovich. They have just the right amount of bad-ass for me......