Quote Originally Posted by isabeau6{R1} View Post
i have been told that it takes time to become collared..that it takes time to find the right one for you..and that also it takes time to get to know each other..i have been accused of wanting just any collar i can get..and also that i'm impatient...impatient yes that is a flaw of mine, but grabbing any collar just for the sake of wearing one, no that's not true..i did that two years ago, when i didn't know any better...the fact is if my ex hadn't hurt me so badly, i would still be wearing his collar now.. that being said...i got to know Rabbit1 over the weekend..all day saturday and all day sunday..we talked for ever it seems and got to know everything about each other..and realized we are perfect for each other...so although it's best probably to get to know each other over time, well we did that all this last weekend..i am proud to be his submissive..in the process though, i've upset someone that i was having a playful sort of relationship with..and i'm sorry about that..he knows who he is..he doesn't post much..hardly any at all..but i never wore his collar..

i trust Rabbit1, and i feel that we shall grow in our relationship as time goes on..i know it happened fairly quickly, but he has been in this lifestyle for 25 years and i believe he knows what is what..so i will be guided by him..
isabeau, we are in somewhat similar situations....Sir decided very recently that he wanted to collar me, and I of course accepted. For now it's a collar of consideration (yes, it's kinda an old guard thing), which will change to a permanent collar once we're able to be together permanently. Neither of us wishes to rush things, and we both understand that the physical distance between us is going to make things exceedingly difficult at times.
But anyway, what I wanted to tell you before I went off on the tangent was that I have upset people too lately. I've been what I would consider lightly involved with a few other Doms since meeting my Sir. All of that ended with my collar. And more than one is quite upset with me because of it. My intention was never to lead them on or anything of the sort, but I am now officially off the market so to speak, and they're not happy about it, or so it seems. You, like me, know what you feel is best for you, and that is to entrust yourself to another.
I'm like you, I can see how people may be judgemental and say "it's too soon" or whatever else, but don't sweat it. I'm not. I know how I feel, and I know where I want to be...in His arms and under His guidance.
So congratulations to both of you, and best wishes for a happy, successful future.
Hugs,
medic

Also, thank you to everyone again that has posted regarding my questions about collars. My long conversations with my Sir and the help I received here are what gave me the confidence to accept His collar as the right decision for both of us. So thanks again....