Quote Originally Posted by Mobius
So why do woman fantasies about rape?
Well, I remember reading in "My Secret Garden," a book about female sexual fantasies that was popular in the late 70s, that women sometimes fantasize about rape because they secretly yearn to do those things the rapist makes them do. If they aren't choosing to engage in these sexual acts, then they can't be held responsible and considered "bad girls." The theory is that rape fantasies are basically a product of a repressed society.

I think it's important to remember that in a rape fantasy, the woman who is fantasizing can stop what's happening, and so there is still consent. At the point where she wants to stop, it stops. For that reason, I don't see that real rape has anything in common with fantasy rape. Real rape is an extreme violation of boundaries. A fantasy is safe, and even if it has some ugly elements, it's still choreographed by the woman who is fantasizing it.