Abused

[Donatien]

i am encouraging male opinions *smiles*
thanks for hearing me again One and A/all *s*

I have read what you ladies have posted, and intend to give it serious thought and add a bit of research, before i post my " male opinion" as bug has requested. I have spent far to long today writing on this forum already anyway, and must get some tidying up done , before the cleaner comes!

One clue to psychopathology , underlying a behaviour is its degree of compulsiveness. If you enjoy doing something, even very much, but can leave it alone when other matters need your attention, then it may just be how you are. If you have to do it, seem addicted to it , then it probably is serving some psychological function, even though it may actually be a redundant one now.
e.g for years I had to listen to music all the time, or be absorbing information, but it was only when I attended different types of psychological training courses, that I realised that although i had a natural facility for , and enjoyed music and academic study, the compulsive element was due to the fact that I was using the constant input of data as a way censoring negative thoughts and more importantly feelings from surfacing. Another clue that this was the case is that nearly all my memories are silent, as though the sound track has been erased. I have only an internal precis of my own as to what was said.
I am not complainig having no knowledge of any alternatives, just giving one example of how the brain works.

Another type of defence against trauma is disassociation where one steps outside oneself. A graphic example of which was the little girl subjected to severe sexual abuse by a family member when 5yrs old, who in her mind unscrewed her head and so watched the abuse of her body from the other end of the room!

I must go, but I will be back.