Well, it's funny, when I first joined the forums, I didn't really expect to get a lot out of it. I just joined to satisfy my curiousity about this whole bdsm business, and I kinda got hooked on it.

Recently, someone on this forum (let's just call her Emily, and no, that's not her real name) and I started to get to know each other more on AIM, and realised that we share somewhat of the same limits in bdsm. Emily is a sub, and for those who don't know it yet, I'm a switch with dommish tendancies.

After talking for some time, we somehow accidentally figured out that we could have some type of online, bdsm-type relationship. At the moment, the extent of it goes by me asking her to do different tasks, and should she break a rule within that tasks, there would be punishments. Occasionally, when she goes out for lunch, I request that she wear her tightest belt so that she feels full pretty quickly, I've suggested some daily routines, and so far, she has been following everything to the letter. I also control her orgasms (I'm nice here), and tell her when and how many times she can cum.

So far, the experience has been awesome for me. It's not that I can control the sexual and sometimes non-sexual aspects of this increadible girl, it's the feeling of responsibility, and odd sense of purpose, and ofcourse, it's soooo arousing.

So what do I want from this thread? Since this is my first time in any bdsm type relationship, I don't want to make any mistakes that may harm her. For example, I learned that it is not good to have a vibrator on for a long period of time, but I learned this after asking her to endure an evening with it on. I feel really bad about that incident, and absolutely do not want to have a repeat of something like that. I am also looking for any advice from subs and dom/mes from their experience with o/l stuff. So far I think my tasks are pretty good (if I do say so myself), but I could always use some inspiration. And anything else that people think that I may need.

As far as the identity of Emily, it is up to her to reveal herself.

So my first question to you all, what is the maximum (but safe) amount of time to leave a vibrator in for?