Quote Originally Posted by orchidsoul

It would be great to hear opinions from both dom and sub sides.
Thank you in advance for any and all opinions.

~orchid
This is a huge question and one could write a thesis set around this question. But it touches on many things which leads me to believe consent cannot be isolated from honesty and integrity. I believe our actions based upon our desires set a pattern of behaviour that can prove difficult to break. Therefore it is incumbent upon us, whether a dom or a sub, to be completely honest with our partners about our motives behind our actions and not to mislead eachother for some short term gratification or because it is easier not to say something.

For me BDSM is a way to heightened sensibility and erotic experience. As one pushes closer to the edge it is essential that both participants share all the information, be it doubts or sensing one's feelings are changing. It's better to know where the compass is pointing and to avoid a crash, rather than crashing because eachother had different expectations.