Hi albear,
So sorry to hear you're in pain. I hope it ends up being only temporary.
I'm not so sure how you feel about taking anything for your symptoms, but I know of a couple herbal approaches. I have a friend that used to suffer from joint pain and he was part of hiking/rescue crew at a mountain during this period. He swore by brewers yeast daily and it allowed him to continue working at the mountain. Granted, I just did a brief search and found no direct correlation to remedying pain! But, it's high in Vitamin B which is helpful in alleviating arthritis... so maybe that's the correlation??
A couple other herbal options are turmeric or Devil's claw. They aid in relieving swelling and other triggers of arthritis.
There's also the option of acupuncture depending on your health coverage. An amazing practice that alleviates, controls and/or cures. Not sure of it's success rate in arthritis, but may be worth a shot.
Check into little things you can change in your daily routine to prevent aiding arthritis from affecting you- sleeping routine, diet, excercise, etc.
Good luck and hope you feel better soon... especially since you're not even comfortable getting the lovin'!!
~orchidsoul