I'm not sure how ST came into question in this thread. I thought this thread was about "valued traits in the life."

If we're talking about a relationship POV, then leave ST out of it. ST is not a personals or a relationship site. The people there are not there to find lasting friendships, love, or LTRs. The people there are mostly beginners in BDSM, without the benefit of a partner, looking to expand their knowledge of BDSM by performing tasks.