Valued traits in the life.

[slavelucy]

It was actually about submissive tasks. I tried it once and couldn't get the hang of it and that was with someone I was very serious about. That was why I can't get my head round people who don't know eachother being able to do it.

Ah, right, yes, i see what you mean (i think!). If you mean online generally, then i can easily see how people do it..by getting to know each other, in that respect it's no different from getting to know someone in r/l...one would hardly be likely to shack up with someone they'd just met; and so, too, i find it unusual that someone would choose to take tasks from a dominant they'd just met.

i am not attempting to directly criticise the ST project here when i say this, but it really IS a mystery to me. In my view (and this is only my opinion), the DS relationship is COMPRISED of tasks...tasks given and performed with feeling and belief in a person, and if we all agree (which thus far, we seem to) that DS relationships are based on trust, love, understanding, commitment etc etc...then it seems a misnomer to say that what is going on in ST is DS at all.

(TG - with luck, the last paragraph hopefully clears up how ST came into a discussion about DS and it's associated values ).

I feel more comfortable where there seems to be some r/l relevance to what I'm asking a sub to do.

How do you mean? Real life relevance for you or for her? If you'd formed some sort of bond (not necessarily overly emotional) with her...any tasks she performed at your request would certainly effect her r/l..and hopefully yours too.

I am both baffled and intrigued.

About DS? About relationships? Aren't we all! LOL. i think DS particularly is open to a great deal of interpretation and gives rise to many different opinions and views...which is good.

sl