Quote Originally Posted by Donatien
PE its only too late at the RIP stage.
Too true Donatien. Hope springs eternal.

But to get the thread back on track, of valued human traits, I would put forward REALISM for several reasons. It stops ones expectations being too high and hence prevents disappointment. It is also unfair to deny people the same human flaws and frailties one recognises in oneself. No matter how much you adore someone or how high the pedestal you put them on, they are human and it's grossly unfair to expect too much of them. I lost my personal compass and denied someone had such flaws and frailties, I blamed them for it, when really it was my unrealistic expectations that were to blame. I was a fool to myself and unjust to her so definitely REALISM. From there other things can follow.