Yes, we've had several of those conversations very recently that I walked away from saying "holy sh**, I'm getting what I want here and he actually brought it up" and then got a little chill down my spine - you know, that delicious, slightly fearful shiver that says "okay, now can you really handle it?"
He just shocks the crap out of me sometimes - sounds the same for you. Oh, and the whole "you are here to serve me and only me, whether you get off on it or not" dynamic that he didn't seem to be feeling? Well, he's feeling it all right and I have now gone 5 days without, while he's pretty damn happy. Actually, I'm feeling pretty damn happy too... hooray for husbands that are willing to explore their own dark corners!
When I read your post, I just yelled out loud, in my empty house, with no one around... "Oh my God!!" and burst out laughing! No, no mental illness in my family, I swear - we just call Southern women who talk to themselves "eccentric" or "touched" - actually "tetched" but figured I'd better spell it correctly so everyone else knew what I was talking about - I know you do, tessa.![]()
*a big hug just for you*
jeanne