Quote Originally Posted by orchidsoul
That's a great answer Lucy. When I read this paragraph, it suddenly made all the sense in the world.
*big smile* Great! Communicating this stuff can be quite difficult, so i'm pleased it made sense.


Quote Originally Posted by orchidsoul
And I think you are completely right about maybe more inadvertently occuring in a vanilla relationship since the partners are technically not intentionally molding their partners, but often it occurs. Again- people falling into behavioral patterns instinctively.
Thank you so much!
You're welcome! i am REALLY happy to have slightly allayed what is clearly (and justifiably) a serious concern for you. And, again, thank YOU for bringing the issue up, it's one that lies very close to my heart on a variety of levels and i've enjoyed clarifying a few things in my own mind.

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