I've never been in that situation but can't imagine it's that much fun for you.

I think you have to talk to him, openly and honestly, and tell him how you feel. Communication is 100%.

I was brought into 'this' by communication, someone who had an interest in me got inside my head and pulled out all my thoughts, fears and fantasies. He saw something in me I'd never admit to myself. Had we not communicated, I'd still be a closet submissive.

I don't want to say something is skewed there ... and I don't know all the details, but something isn't quite Kosher. If this man truly desired his own sub and now has one, why isn't he all over you? Maybe he just fantasized about wanting his own slave, and now that he has one, he's scared. Maybe it's not what he thought it would be. Maybe truly does want to form a solid friendship/relationship first.

I agree, don't settle. I've done it in the past and all you gain is heartache.

And, good luck