For me, it does, if the Dom knows me well enough to know what pushes my buttons and I'm in tune enough with him to know what pushes his buttons, too.

Force is my turn on. It also puts him in a position of power, so we're both happy.

If I say "make me" and expect him to do A and he does B, it's a
surprise for me, but a welcome one just the same.

He can also NOT do what I expect, or want, and that in itself is cruel. But, I love it





Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
No, it doesn't. Saying "make me" doesn't challenge anything. It just means you're topping from the bottom. It's when you don't say make me that the dominant is challenged.

I had a submissive once that said "make me." She spent the next five hours tied on her knees, kneeling on kitty litter in a corner. She didn't do it again.