Of course it's about what I want. If it wasn't I'd not be seeking that type of relationship in the first place.

I also never said I had a dominant man in my life, nor have I ever manipulated the ones I've had. Right now, working 80 hours a week, I can't devote the time needed to a relationship.

I also don't get involved in a 'traditional' D/S relationship, because I know what I need, and what I crave, is not the norm. Any man who has been involved with me knew that from the outset and was obviously on the same wavelength as I was.

Just because I'm submissive and serve someone does not mean I give up my own individual needs and desires. I'm not owned, nor will I ever be. If it's what you choose, more power to you. I have a friend who has been owned for 11 years now (trying to get her to this site, too) and she's happy. I'm happy for her. We've shared our experiences and connect on a level not many can understand. But as much as we're alike, we're as different as night and day, too.

As I've said before, a mindfuck is a powerful thing

Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
So, your submission is about what you want, is it? Sounds like you are the dominant one in your relationship. If you have to manipulate your dominant just to get some reaction out of himm, then I think you and your dominant might need to reassess who really is dominant and who really is submissve.

Manipulation is not submission. It also has no place in any kind of relationship. I had a girlfriend once that liked to keep me wrapped around her little finger and do everything she could to get her way. She's an ex now, too. I learned not to put up with that shit.

Your dominant should not have to be placed in a position of power. He should just be the one with the power. It's really that simple. If that's not how it is, then you likely do not have as much of a d/s relationship as you might believe you do.