Spankings? *yawn*. Spend 25 minutes working over my tits with a riding crop and now we're talking



You don't know me well if you don't think I'm submissive. Then again, you've never had me in bed

I derive pleasure from serving, of course, and often have done things I didn't really like, but did it because it pleased. But there is nothing wrong with a Dom giving me what I like if it pleases him as well. He should also withhold that pleasure since he knows I crave it, too. Therein lies the mindfuck.

I don't think what I crave is merely kink, but I'm also not going to lay my desires out in public, I don't want y'all thinking I'm weird or something







Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
[font]=century gothic]I would classify you, if I had to, as liking kink, but not as submissive. Submissives derive pleasure from the serving, the servitude and the pleasure of the one they serve. You do not strike me as the type of person that submits, as the definition bespeaks.

However, nothing wrong with that at all. Bickering over terminology is pretty pointless. However, enjoying kink and spankings does not make one a submissive.

I would hope that no submissive would ever give up their individual wants and needs. Nor would I hope that any submissive would give up their sense of self to please someone. It takes a strong person to submit to someone. Broken ones and doormats are not submissives, in my opinion, they are just people in need of some therapy.

The mindfuck, as you call it, may be a powerful thing. It also might just be a form of manipulation. It depends how it's used.[/font]