Seeking some relationship advice

[BruceBoxer]

Haven't gone the sexual route yet eh? Sweetie, come to Texas and I'll take care of that aspect...or Alberta Canada and Tourguide, my Northern cousin would oblige I'm sure

Originally posted by His_little one
I love Tourguides suggestion of crawling naked with his belt between my teeth, but i truly think he would have a heart attack- we haven't gone the "sexual" route yet and i think going to that extreme with no warning he would be so shocked he wouldn't know what to do, and "me" would surely not be it.

[InnerTemptress]

just something that perhaps you haven't considered. i am THE most impatient person alive and one thing that i have found in my very limited experiences with D/s is that when i am required to follow my dominant's timelines and schedules i get more out of it. it truly is fighting against my natural inclination and helps me to better experience the tease of the situation.

as a submissive it is sometimes hard for me to understand the "master" plan and if i ask it is his choice whether to share it or not.

you built this relationship on a foundation of common need and interest. assuming that he suddenly hasn't changed those needs and interests .. i see this as a test. as you said .. afterall you are the submissive and it is your desire to submit to his will and desire.

[veru_skjava]

WEll said, what a great way of sharing Inner Temptress..



veru

[veru_skjava]

Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
Go for it, huh? You must think punishment is for fun. I can assure you, in the hands of the right dominant, it is anything but.

Veru is a very good slave. I have had the occasion to know her for over a year now and I think she has a great head on her shoulders. The nice thing is, she uses it often.

I think that, for veru, she does not have the final decision, nor does she want it. She can stick up for herself just fine and she's a strong woman, but her master is the one that decides what she will do, not the other way around. In this world, that's how things should be.

Thank you TG Sir,

What high praise Sir. *beams with the pride of my owner*

Yes it is true, as his slave, my owner makes all the descions, and I thrive on the incredible dominance he has. It is a true power exchange. I find that by maintaining this exchange, I have grown emotionally, my health has improved, and my sexuality has increased beyond my wildest imagination.

There are countless times that he has made a choice that was a disappointment to me. Only to find later on that if it had been allowed as i had wished (even secretly) then it would not have been to A. my advantage or betterment. B. As fulfilling and developmental in my journey deeper into my slavery.

Truly I find that his rules, expectations and control have given me a sense of freedom that I would never have been capable of had I not been owned.


Thank you again TG Sir, I am going to ask my owner to read your kind words. **VBS**

appreciatively,

veru

Happily owned

[veru_skjava]

Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
Like what, sweetie? Give us examples. I'd personally like to know.

Well, to begin with, Master knows the severe dedication to my collar I have. If I were to disobey something that is NOT
in His non negotiable list, then I may be denied the wearing of my physical collar, or my chains, (anklet, waist, bracelet) or worse, forbidden to participate in daily activities, such as Master getting his own coffee, (OMG), being required to be present while he went about those tasks that are routine in my serving him, including locking me from the shower/bathroom, prohibited to dry him after his shower, let alone prohibited from taking a shower with him.

I could be left to think about my disobedience while tethered away from him, though even then he would not cause my slave heart to panic of abandonment. He is strict and firm in his expectations but would never cause emotional terror. He takes caring and maintaining his slave very seriously.

OMG worse yet could be not being allowed to wear any of my significant (though not obvious) symbolism jewelry or attire, when accompanying him. OR being required to wear panties when he knows my slavery has conditioned me to be without. Knowing that being available to him is my purpose. (yikes, the implications are heart wrenching)








Those are a few Sir.....

For as you know, when serving is ones life, as it is mine, having that requlated as a reminder that I have disobeyed hurts far more then any spanking or floggling ever could. And the impression lasts a hell of a lot longer.

Appreicatively,
veru KoYc

[LadyAmanda]

Veru,
I can understand this clearly, because it is similar to the relationship that I have with Sylvie. When we started, she disobeyed me often, just to get punished. Not like you, I know, but it didn't take me too long to figure out that the worst punishment I could hand out was to keep her away from me, and not let her do the things for me that she wanted to, like the baths, the hair brushing, the casual contact in public.

In our case, the psychological punishment is worse than the physical one, especially since the physical punishment is what she craves.

[restraint]

Is it possible that He had some BDsM tendancies...but maybe not as strong as yours?

my partner is Vanilla ......and making the right life choice can be tough at times