Quote Originally Posted by Dngnkeeper
I think you have made several big steps. You have found some common ground for DS and she has been open to it. In addition you have found a way to build some trust in both the DS and sexual areas of your relationsip.

It looks like you two have found a path that can lead to the expansion of your relationship that you have been looking for.

Continued good luck
Dngnkeeper,

Hi, I stumbled across this thread while searching for someone else and noticed Sunyata's photo in the member's list (what can I say ... Sunyata, you are gorgeous), and was very interested in the topic, as dissimilar sex drives are very often a problem with male/female relationships, although I've been very very fortunate with my last two lovers. And at least one lesbian friend of mine complained of the same thing. Well actually she just plainly said girls don't like to fuck (her word, not mine), and she did. I however try not to believe in generalizations, especially radical ones that are so clearly off the mark.

The other aspect of the issue that was covered, that affects so many people, is dissimilar or even completely different tastes in sexual activities. With my last two lovers, one taught me about bondage and submission, while the other would have totally freaked. I'm still mourning the loss of the former.

At any rate, I'm writing because I'm so impressed with your detailed and thoughtful advice. I hope to be able to apply some of them in the future, unless of course I get lucky and find another lover that has to bring me up to speed again. That would be nice.

regards,
sunburststrat