How to dominate a new sub?

[orchidsoul]

Hi Chips,

It seems that this young lady is already giving you what you want, strange as it may be considering the profession. I'm a bit weary of your desire to control women you can so quickly walk away from, since the potential for damaging their emotional well being becomes heightened.

It is cleaner, safer and more economical than a normal relatinship in many ways, and it means that I get to call the shots from the moment I meet my partner.

I'm baffled at how one could call it cleaner even with the use of protection. Does a woman who sleeps with many men a day not pose a higher risk for STD's and such? When she performs oral on you, have you a condom on? If not, imagine all the other men she is performing oral on without a condom. That can spread infection. I'm not condemning her chosen profession, just trying to make valid arguments.

I also sense that your desire for this type of paid relationship stems from the ability for lack of commitment. A bf/gf relationship requires commitment, communication, compromise (yes, even in d/s), support, emotional safety, and so on. Yes, you do not owe a prostitute any of this.

But I can contact her, while she cannot reach me. The last few days were difficult for me, but intolerable for her, because she is powerless to do anything if I were never to return.

I get the feeling more and more you are just looking to fuck with someones head. My read of this is that you seem to get off on having the control of whether or not someone is permitted to be in your presence. That's not D/s imho. Speaking as someone with this experience of not being able to reach someone, it did more damage than good. Granted, I'm not a call girl so there was no reason to keep that information from me, but if your relationship with this young lady is to develop further, to keep her so on the side lines will harm her emotionally more than you can imagine.

I do suppose some congratulations may be in order as you seemed to have touched something inside of her the first time. However, I'm still leery to your intentions and desires. I am sorry if I've misinterpreted any information, but this is my gut instinct.