How did you find out about the BDSM lifestyle?

Once upon a time, there was an innocent young lady - okay, okay, not so young lady who worked at a big company doing shitty office work. She had a nice vanilla marriage, and didn't know any better.

Then one day, the big bad wolf came along - sorry, the nice wonderful lady boss came along, and said, You can huff and you can puff, but I'm still gonna blow your walls down.

And she did. She wriggled her way into my thoughts and my dreams, and eventually, into my pants.

And they fell in love, and lived happily ever after. Except, there was a twist. The big bad wolf taught the innocent young lady that there was more to life than just vanilla; there's also chocolate fudge with nuts on top. Turns out, the big bad wolf liked things much better if she had to work hard for them, and that included sex of all kinds. The innocent young thing discovered that the term 'pain slut' existed, and could be applied to the big bad wolf.

She also learn that topping from the bottom was possible, but it was a situation that had to be reversed quickly and completely. Now, the not so young, not so innocent one is in complete control, with only occasional outbursts from the big bad wolf.
Down, girl!



What was its appeal to you?
The fact that it is completely opposite my 'normal' life, where I'm meek and mild and quiet. The power I have over this woman astounds me. (and sometimes scares me.)


What misconceptions did you have of BDSM before you began that have been changed now?

I thought it was a lot more extreme than it actually is. I thought people took it further. I thought all subs were pain sluts.


What do you hope to learn/teach/pass on to others about BDSM?

How much fun it is when you connect with the right person.


Do you consider yourself a "lifestyler" or just an occasional player?

Since I have a vanilla marriage, and my best friend is also my sub, the only thing I do fulltime is walk a thin tightrope!



What do you enjoy about being dominant/submissive?

Using my imagination to come up with the most original scenes for us to play with. Forcing her to give up her control. Watching her get aroused by what I'm doing to her. Allowing myself to become aroused by what she's doing to me!




What do you like about your dominant/submissive(s), if you have one (them)?

Everything about her, even when she's being a smart-mouthed sub. Her sense of humour. The way she can laugh at herself. The way she obeys me, even when she really, really doesn't want to do something. The look on her face when she realizes that I've just embarrassed/humiliated the hell out of her - again. Watching that cute ass slowly turning red ...