and I would like to see a more rounded picture presented, that living a BDSM lifestyle is not just about Doms in black leather and subs being beaten until they gasp out their safe word.

A documentary on vanilla relationships would not just focus on the bedroom, so why should one on BDSM just focus on the dungeon?

Oh - and Discreet Charm, welcome to our online community. I can't help but think that you will find some interesting facets here, but do ask you to respect members' confidentiality and sensitivities. From time to time people open themselves to the point of vulnerability. Given your question, I am sure I do not need to ask this of you, but there will be a lot of sad people if you should use what you read here as material for easy entertainment.

cariad