Just an additional thought... I have a hard times, at moments, opening up just because the language that may used is not a word/language I would normally use. "Fuck" would be an example. Took me a while to get used to using the term on line, although is easier mainly because I don't feel as though I have to watch for/judge their response to the word. I still struggle, at times, to verbalize it in r/l just because of the mental boundaries I was always taught, etc. about certain words. Saying some words, over and over make them less frightening and therefore I am more apt do use them when trying to share something special with my partner with less hesitation.